Comments on: Adoption: Emotional Scams http://www.healthvues.com/blog/adoption/adoptions-scams/adoption-emotional-scams/ Interactive Educational Development & Publishing Mon, 06 Sep 2010 07:00:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Andrew Johnson http://www.healthvues.com/blog/adoption/adoptions-scams/adoption-emotional-scams/#comment-58 Andrew Johnson Sun, 30 Mar 2008 17:54:03 +0000 http://www.healthvues.com/blog/adoption/adoptions-scams/adoption-emotional-scams/#comment-58 The descriptive term "birthmother" was used by our agency to identify any woman - legitimate or not - who indicated she has an adoption plan at any stage of development. It was used for the sake of clarity - but you're absolutely right - a birthmother does not become as such until she gives birth, just as "adoptive parents" are not such (including us) until they legally adopt. Our use of that descriptor seems to be accepted in these circles and I certainly do not mean to use it in a disparaging manner. We have the utmost respect and admiration for birthmothers, or any woman/couple who considers an adoption plan. In my progressive posts on this topic, my hope is to shed a little more light on a topic that was covered in the main stream media with limitation. Adoption is a very complex subject, and adoption scams are also very complex and not every situation - or plan that does not move forward to an actual adoption - should be viewed as a scam. I hope that sentiment will be apparent in my subsequent posts. Thank you for your comment. The descriptive term “birthmother” was used by our agency to identify any woman - legitimate or not - who indicated she has an adoption plan at any stage of development. It was used for the sake of clarity - but you’re absolutely right - a birthmother does not become as such until she gives birth, just as “adoptive parents” are not such (including us) until they legally adopt. Our use of that descriptor seems to be accepted in these circles and I certainly do not mean to use it in a disparaging manner. We have the utmost respect and admiration for birthmothers, or any woman/couple who considers an adoption plan.

In my progressive posts on this topic, my hope is to shed a little more light on a topic that was covered in the main stream media with limitation. Adoption is a very complex subject, and adoption scams are also very complex and not every situation - or plan that does not move forward to an actual adoption - should be viewed as a scam. I hope that sentiment will be apparent in my subsequent posts. Thank you for your comment.

]]> By: ColeyS http://www.healthvues.com/blog/adoption/adoptions-scams/adoption-emotional-scams/#comment-57 ColeyS Sun, 30 Mar 2008 05:10:01 +0000 http://www.healthvues.com/blog/adoption/adoptions-scams/adoption-emotional-scams/#comment-57 I'm sorry that you were scammed, but I think it's important to clarify that most of the time these women who scam adoptive couples (be it finacially or emotionally) they are NOT birthmothers. Often times, they are not even pregnant. One does not become a birthmother until she actually signs papers terminating her parental rights thus giving consent to an adoption. As a birthmother myself, it's very troubling when scam stories calling the scammer a birthmother are in the news or public venues. It gives the public a tainted view of geunine birthmothers. I’m sorry that you were scammed, but I think it’s important to clarify that most of the time these women who scam adoptive couples (be it finacially or emotionally) they are NOT birthmothers. Often times, they are not even pregnant.

One does not become a birthmother until she actually signs papers terminating her parental rights thus giving consent to an adoption. As a birthmother myself, it’s very troubling when scam stories calling the scammer a birthmother are in the news or public venues. It gives the public a tainted view of geunine birthmothers.

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